My day starts with a 10 minute walk from my home to a metro station in Maviya Nagar, followed by a 1 hour 15 minute journey in a train to Gurgaon and then again a 10 minute auto ride to my office. Then I have to work for almost 10 hours in the office, only to follow it up with the same long journey back to home. But I am not writing this article to crib about the tiresome routine of mine. It’s the way I am being stripped by so many eyes which comes across me in that period of 14 hours is what stings me.
Whenever I see someone staring down my chest, I wonder, can they really see through my dress? And if not, then why are they staring so ferociously. It’s not against the law to stare at someone, but isn’t it harsh on women when a person stares at her with lustful eyes as if she is just an object of sex. It’s not that these things don’t happen in other western countries, but the extent to which it happens and the frequency at which it happens here is what makes every day life so difficult. And in case you have a bigger bust, then getting raped by the eyes become a routine for you.
This is that kind of a problem which no one knows how to discuss. We don’t even know with whom we should share or what should we share. There is a strange taboo attached to it. Perhaps this is the reason why even I couldn’t push myself to reveal my identity while writing this article.
If you are thinking that I am the only one who faces the problem of eyes hovering all over my body then you are wrong. This is the exact story of so many girls in our country. The best example being what Times of India published about Deepika Padukone’s cleavage. It just reflects how the Indian mentality works. The reason why it’s not being discussed often is because girls like me don’t know how to put it in front of the world so that they can understand what we are trying to tell.
Earlier I thought that education was the ultimate solution for this. But when I see that my bosses and my colleagues are no different from an uneducated and uncivilized person when it comes to uninhibited stares, my whole belief system goes down in to the gutter.
I don’t even have to dress provocatively to draw the unwanted attention. My salwar kameez is enough for the dogs to put their tongues out.
So what can we do to stop this?
A stern look is hardly enough to break their determination of seeing through our clothes. If your solution is that we should go ahead and argue with every onlooker who stares at us, then it’s not feasible. On most occasions we don’t even have a proof of what exactly happened, and creating a scene in a public place is even worse.
Can’t the solution be, that men understand the simple fact that my breasts are my property and they don’t have a rat’s ass to do with it?
I hope the answer is yes, or else there is no answer.
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